Here are a few choice improv maxims that work in other parts of life too.

Notice more
Is having the presence of mind to notice what’s happening in the moment, and the ability to sense what is most alive and important right now. Rather than closing down and missing a lot of what’s going on, we can choose to open ourselves up to new insights and new ways of responding.

Use what’s there
Improvisers accept what’s happening, and use it to create new stories from just a few suggestions. By doing so they show the value and possibility that exists in every situation, and the wide range of resources at our disposal when we choose to connect with people and use what’s there in the moment.

Dare to be obvious
On stage, improvisers have to be super clear so their fellow improvisers know how to respond and so the audience can follow the story. It’s the same in real life: it pays to be clear and obvious about what we mean, what we want, and what we don’t know – even if that makes us feel uncomfortable.

Be willing to be changed
When people hold different views the best way forward is if they allow themselves to be changed by each other. With this ability it’s possible to walk into every room with a point of view and with the willingness to be changed. People will know that you have seen them and heard them.

Don’t try your hardest
Performers learn to relax and not try too hard. Why? Because the best relationships and ideas come when you aren’t stressed out. Don’t try your best is how improv teacher Keith Johnstone put it. Students of the Japanese martial art Aikido are taught to ‘Aim for 70%’ which is much the same. It helps to take the pressure off.

Make mistakes please
In the words of Seth Godin, “Anyone who says failure is not an option has also ruled out innovation.” Whenever we take a step off the edge there is the possibility of making mistakes. But mistakes are gifts we can use to move forward, our partners in the game that show we are willing to learn, take risks and make decisions.

Let go… of something
What that something is will vary. It might be our attachment to being right, it might be the way we’ve always done things, a knee-jerk reaction or an out-of-date label. When our hands are full we have to put something down to be able to use what’s there. It’s a reminder that it’s easy to become rigid when flexibility is more useful.

Take the focus off yourself
Psychologists say “Flow follows focus.” So where you focus your attention has a big impact on the outcome. By putting our focus on other people we can authentically observe, connect and respond in a way that acknowledges what they bring. It also helps to dial down distractions and our habitual self-talk.

Make your partner look good
Is not about empty flattery, it’s about realising that the quality of our relationships has more impact than the words we use. When you include others in your space and act generously towards them it’s transformative. So instead of trying to look smart, commit to helping others look good or helping them understand and join in.

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